Thursday, September 6, 2012

Book Review - When a Women You Love Was Abused

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80 percent of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It's proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood. Yet few men are prepared to deal with those effects, even when their own wife is the one who is suffering. And their wife's suffering becomes their own suffering as their needs aren't being met by a wife who is powerless to control her inner turmoil.

Author, pastor, and survivor Dawn Scott Jones candidly shares her own abuse experience to help husbands understand the varied emotions, fears, distorted thoughts, and triggers that hold their wives captive. In practical and accessible language, Jones explains the stages of the healing journey (processing denial, asking for help, grieving, expressing anger, learning to forgive, and finding resolution). Building on that knowledge, Jones then moves to an honest discussion of what husbands can do to help. Whether it's creating a healing environment, understanding the need for control, building trust, or even just praying for healing, a husband plays an active role in helping his wife survive and thrive despite her past abuse.

Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.

For over twenty years God has graciously used Dawn to touch the lives of people through her affecting personal testimony, her humor, and her writing. Dawn’s past challenges have deepened and enriched her ministry; enabling her to truly understand and relate to what others are going through.

Dawn is an Ordained Minister with the Assemblies of God. She has served in various capacities including Executive Team Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, and Woman’s Ministry Director. Dawn travels Nation-wide speaking, training and consulting.

Find out more about Dawn Scott at


This book covers a very difficult subject. At times, I felt myself cringing over what the author and others like her had to endure and what they live with as adults. My heart broke for them and for the innocence that was stolen from them by their abusers. Be warned that there are very, very difficult passages to read in this book. It’s heartbreaking and mind-numbing at times what this author, and others like her, went through.  

This book is mainly for husbands of abused women. It goes into detail of what the woman is feeling and why.  It is so helpful for those men who aren’t sure what to do for their loved one who has suffered in this way.  However, I thought this book was also helpful for women counselors in the church to help other women. The author gives a lot of information that would really be of a benefit to women in leadership roles that are trying to help abused women.

The book has three sections:  1. Understanding The Survivor  2. Understanding the Healing Process and 3. How You Can Help.  I found all three of these sections to be very informative and would be helpful in understanding the mind of an abused woman. I really liked the section of “How You Can Help” as I felt it gave wonderful information on how to help her. 

If you have been sexually abused or know someone who was, this book would be very helpful not only to their mate, but to the abused woman herself. I think reading that others went through this situation would help a woman feel more understood and give her a clearer understanding of herself. It will definitely help the husband of an abused woman to be more caring and understanding toward his wife.  This is a really helpful and good book for this very difficult topic. 

*This book was provided to me for my honest review by LitFuse Publicity Group

You can purchase the book HERE

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Blessings - Julie

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for taking the time to read--and for mentioning that this book will be helpful to others as well as husbands. I am hearing great stories of counselors, pastors, friends, parents, and the survivor herself, who are reading and finding strength, insight, and HOPE!
    I'm so glad you read and shared. Thank you! You can also join in on my new Blog,


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