Sunday, June 25, 2017

Book Review - No More Perfect Marriages


Do you ever feel like the spark is gone? Like a critical spirit has invaded your marriage? Like you want more intimacy, but something is in the way? You could be suffering from the Perfection Infection. The Perfection Infection happens when we cultivate unrealistic expectations of ourselves and our spouse, gradually leading to intimacy-killing behavior, also known as the “Seven Slow Fades.” That was the case for Jill and Mark Savage, and it eventually led to infidelity. In No More Perfect Marriages, the Savages share their story, help guide couples through the challenges of marriage and intimacy-building, and reveal that hurting marriages can heal and good marriages can become great.


Mark and Jill Savage speak and write on issues of faith and family. Known for their honesty, humor, and practical teaching, they travel across the country to educate and equip families. 

Jill is the founder of Hearts at Home and has led thousands of moms to keep their priorities straight and their heart in tune with God. She is the author of nine books, including Better Together (Moody, co-authored with her daughter Anne), No More Perfect Kids (Moody), No More Perfect Moms (Moody), Living With Less So Your Family Has More (co-authored with Mark, GuidePosts), and Real Moms...Real Jesus (Moody). Jill has been featured on Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today,, The Huffington Post, and in numerous other media outlets. 

Mark served in church ministry and pastoral roles for more than 20 years, before transitioning to partner together with Jill in encouraging families through Hearts at Home. Mark also owns his own construction business, Sawhorse Homes, where he enjoys home remodeling, handyman work, countertop installation, and helping people with whatever home projects they want to accomplish.

The Savages have five children and three grandchildren and live in Normal, IL. 

More information on the Savages can be found at


I have read a lot of books on marriage in my thirty four years of marriage and I have to say this is by far one of the best I have ever read!

This book is written in such an easy to read way. I liked that it was easy to read and understand and that the authors were so honest and open. Right away they shared that in their 33 years of marriage, only 25 of them were happy. This made me realize that this was a couple who understand the ups and downs of marriage.

They write from both their perspectives letting us know who is "talking" by putting their name in parenthesis before the paragraph. I liked this because it helped me to see how different they each saw the same situation. I found this eye opening because sometimes we naturally think our spouse sees things the same way we do, especially if we've been married for any length of time.

One thing I really learned was how we have different ways of processing things. Some process internally and some externally. Also, our framework can really be different from our spouse and it's important to understand how we each feel loved. There are so many resources in this book that are extremely helpful!

At the end of each chapter, there are questions for you do answer. I like that this book can be read and processed as an individual or as a couple. It isn't about changing your spouse but finding out how in you can make your relationship better by understanding yourself and your spouse better.

I learned so much from this book as it gives practical direction for making your marriage all you could ever hope it could be. I highly recommend this book to everyone who is married! I give it 5 out of 5 stars.

*This book was provided to me for my honest review by Side Door Communications and Moody Publishers

Blessings - Julie

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